Kaci's Right

Some of you may know I am taking a group processes class. It's a class on how to run counseling groups, not how to run more effective teams. Think AA rather than office space. Part of the class is running a group. I have run one effectively already and that's not what this post is about, rather it's about giving up some of the reponsibility that I feel for the others in my life.

Earlier today I wrote and deleted a post about how frustrated I was about the disappointment and anger Bryan was feeling towards a situation his mom put us through yesterday. I was frustrated because I couldn't make it better for him or protect him from being hurt or disappointment. I nag him to call his parents, write thank you cards, and buy christmas presents because I want to make sure that he keeps a good connection to his family.

Today in group and after reading a post from my Aunt Donna I realize that I am only vocal in group, because I feel like I need to protect those around me. I do this in other ways in my life too, not the vocal thing in fact I don't like people. Today I after I made the realization, I sat back, and by the end of the group realized that the people around me don't need my protection, and I'm not responsible for making sure they don't go through hurt unless it's from me. So when Kaci asks, "Who are you responsible for?" I need to reply like her kids with a deflated "myself." and let the need to take over go.